Ok guys, do you sometimes get the feeling that you just can’t hit it off when it comes to speaking to women? Are you a complete marble mouth and ending up at a loss in your romantic life because you keep turning women off when you communicate with them? Then you see other men who don’t seem to be any more intelligent than you or better looking and girls just seem to be totally into them. What’s up with that? Well, if you are prepared to discover what you want to know about talking to women then here are ten ways to get your act together:
The first thing is that you must quit attempting to impress her. Women don’t like it when you try to decide for them in regards to how they should feel about you. If you truly want to be able to communicate with a woman you better be yourself and let her make up her mind about what she thinks about you.
The second thing you must master is keeping your compliments about how beautiful she is to yourself. Believe me, if she’s attractive, she knows she is. She’s had men telling her for her entire life, so what’s the difference if you tell her the same thing? If you must tell her something nice, find something about her demeaner or her clothes.
The third thing is that you can’t be afraid to enter her space. This means that you touch her lightly on the arm when you talk or at least touch one of her items such as her purse or her cell phone. You see, girls have this kind of radar and they can tell if you are not comfortable. Then they become uneasy and when that happens they just make up their mind that they don’t like feeling that way and they leave you in the dust.
The fourth thing you need to understand is boundaries. If it looks like a women is ready to wrap up the conversation and you turn into that needy man who attempts to retain her attention she is going to shut you off like a light switch. Think about it, she could be in a hurry or maybe she is just a little uneasy because she is actually interested in you. Either way, if you seem desperate she is going to drop you like a bad habit.
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The fifth thing to learn is the art of polite put down. In other words, you point out something about her that is negative or even unattractive. Just do it in a non-threatening way and don’t be mean or insulting. This will suggest to her that she has to convince you otherwise and before she knows it she will be all over you attempting to win your approval.
Sixth, you must learn to create sexual tension. Now this is something which puts the misfortunate nice guys in the friends category when it comes to girls. You see, sexual attraction between a man and a girl requires some friction for it to be effective. Which means that you disagree with her and even test her in a playful sort of way.
The seventh thing is establishing comfort. The problem is that a lot of guys attempt to do this by catering to her every need and being a softie. Sorry, that is going to make her feel really uncomfortable. Why? Because a girl feeling comfortable is all about her having confidence in your ability to keep her safe, being soft just won’t get the job done when it comes to that.
That brings us to the eighth thing you must understand and that is being the alpha male rather than the nice boy. You see, a woman is not drawn to the soft hopeless romantic because she is scared that he won’t have the ability to make her feel safe. Being the rough around the edges bad boy is going to cause her to feel comfortable around you and as she feels comfortable she is bound to let down her defenses.
Number nine, take initiative. Women are much better at being easy on guys for moving too fast or making a mistake than they are to tolerate a guy who is slow or uncertain of what he wants. If you delay until you see what she wants from you before you take initiative, don’t be surprised when she ends up being swept up by a man who will.
Finally, go after the woman who is a bit ’out of reach’ and who may not seem that she really wants a guy by her side. A lot of guys are simply too scared of an independent woman. This simply means that there is slimmer competition so if you are the person who takes a risk to pursue the seemingly unattainable woman you are most likely the man who is going to get to be with her.
Just be sure to make a habit of each one of these strategies and don’t neglect them unless you want to wind up having soda and pie with the other hopeless romantics on Saturday nights. Good Luck!